Passive-Aggressive Bullshit is Bad. This is a Blog Rant.

So, tonight, i opened a conversation with someone who I thought was a friend with "So, why have you randomly stopped speaking to me?"  This, sadly, is not the first conversation I have had like this.  People randomly quit talking to me for stupid reasons then wait for me to figure out that they are in fact avoiding me and then I have to be the asshole and be like "Yo.  What in the hell?"

I hate those conversations.  They are awkward and painful and never, EVER, EVER end well.  They usually end with at least one person in tears.  Here's what happens:  all the negative stuff builds up continuously, with more and more pressure like magma in a volcano.  There is some sort of conflict and then that conflict is resolved...or not.  

This whole cycle can be avoided with a simple "hey dude* you're being dickish" WHEN THE DUDE IN QUESTION IS PERCEIVED AS BEING DICKISH.  Not six months later when it doesn't even matter any more.  This also requires the dude in question to have the emotional maturity to accept that he or she might in fact be being dickish.  

Maybe that's the problem.  Maybe nobody is emotionally stable enough to admit that sometimes they act like a dick, so we're stuck with nobody saying anything to each other and being passive aggressive.  Wonderful.

~~ fin ~~

*note:  I use dude equally to apply to people of all genders.